Human relationships
and what they are, or more importantly, aren't.
Write in a limited span of time part one
People can be so cool.
They can be pretty terrible too.
It’s hard to see that at first glance though.
Alright, enough of these sentences with spaces between them for intended ‘weight’. We dont really show others who we ‘really’ are, except for a select few family and friends. We’re essentially watered-down versions of our personality towards the rest of the world. Sure, you can tell if someone’s a nice guy relatively by seeing how he treats service staff or acts when he’s stressed. But still, I don’t think that’s a great indicator. Kind people can have outbursts too, rational people make irrational decisions. It’s what makes us human! And maybe that’s a good enough indicator! But do you really get to know who that person is?
The gripe I mainly have with all this is the social networks we’re all on. Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, and all of the others you’re on. Do we really show the world who we are? I think Myspace had some of that ‘personalizes’ to it, but I’m not sure, never used it. Another similar app I’ve heard about is the old MyCupid. People there really felt connected with their matches. And that’s because they all took the time to answer those questions, to take a part of themselves generally hidden from the rest of the world, and lay it out there, for you the reader, to know, as a mutual confidante. I’m 17, so no dating apps, but I dont think Tinder or Bumble or any other have replicated the magic they have.
I personally, have many times longed to form actual bonds which require time, commitment, and investment between people. While this is relatively easier to do in person, I’ve had remarkably little success online, barring Hackernews. This leads me to think, is there a little voice inside all of us that wants to have the freedom and audience to show who we really are? I like to believe inside all of us, deep down, we all have a spirit animal that in the end, wants to feel loved, wanted, and cared for by each other. If only we could tell that to each other upfront instead of playing these funny little status and social games made up by society.
To try and accomplish I’ve created a list of questions I think should help people build these types of relationships with others. It’s worked wonderfully with a couple of people, and I’m excited to see what comes out of it. I’ll link it here in case you want to try it. I’m not sure if this is only possible through questions, though. Maybe it’s through listening to similar music, staring into each other’s eyes for an extended period of time( I read somewhere this syncs your heartbeats, pretty cool), or maybe something else. But I think if we can figure this out, we can redefine human relationships.
Let me know what you think!